Posts tagged ‘truth’

September 9, 2014

Learn to speak your spontaneous truth

Thought for the moment:

Truth is completely spontaneous. Lies have to be taught.
~ Buckminster Fuller

Think about it: how many times has someone asked you a question about your life or your opinions or your personal goals, and you find yourself checking your thoughts before you speak, trying to catch that wave of “truth” that instantly wells up inside you and hold it inside until you’ve had chance to reframe it or water it down or distill its true meaning before you open your mouth to answer? As adults, we tend to cover up our true feelings — about people, about situations, about ourselves — for many reasons. Maybe we’re afraid of hurting or getting hurt, or we want to conform, or we mistakenly think our true passions and opinions are somehow “silly” (they’re not; they never are). Whatever the case — and whether the process is conscious or unconscious — the result is the same: we end up masking our honest opinions and emotions in layers of protective, shape-muting “verbal gauze,” and we end up being untrue to both ourselves and the world around us.

What would happen if next time you were asked a question — any question: “How are you today?” “What is your opinion on X?” “Do you want to come with me?” “You seem upset; what happened?” “Where do you want to be in one/two/five/twenty years?” — you told the truth. What if you just let the words that spontaneously well up inside you bubble out into the world, for better or worse? Any pausing you do before answering would be to make sure you’re stating your truth accurately, diplomatically and sympathetically. No need to try and suck the reality out of anything. Reality is what you want.

Scary, yes, but with time and with practice, perhaps your life would become more authentic. Perhaps the things you crave would actually start coming your way. Perhaps you would grow as a person, into a space beyond any limits that you see before you today.

April 30, 2014

You don’t have time to sit and doubt . . .

Inspiration for the last day of April:

The heart knows the truth.
Trust it, for life is short.

(From the film Miss Pettigrew Lives for a Day)

December 11, 2013

You have to be lost to be found

The following passage comes from Rachel Friedman’s travel memoir The Good Girl’s Guide to Getting Lost. Friedman wrote her words in the context of travel, but I think they apply to other areas of life, too:

What happens when we lose the things that anchor us? What if, instead of grasping at something to hold on to, we pull up our roots and walk away? Instead of trying to find the way back, we walk deeper and deeper into the woods, willing ourselves to get lost. In this place where nothing is recognizable, not the people or the language or the food, we are truly on our own. Eventually, we find ourselves unencumbered by the past or the future. Here is a fleeting glimpse of our truest self, our self in the present moment. After that, maybe we can finally go home — or maybe not.

Sometimes life requires us to get lost before we are truly found. Sometimes the “losing of our path” happens unexpectedly, without our input or intent, while other times we are the ones who purposely throw away the map and stride off into the unknown. Whatever the case, such instances provide us with the unique opportunity to live outside our “normal routines” for a time. In those strange places of initial discomfort, we often encounter aspects of ourselves that don’t typically show their faces in our day-to-day lives. Sometimes those aspects empower us, sometimes they unsettle us, and sometimes they just confuse us. But unearthing them is important, as each one of them gives us a more complete picture of who we truly are — and a better position from which to determine the kind of life we really want to lead.

So, every once in a while, give yourself permission to get lost. You never know just what you might find . . . .

July 12, 2012

Illusions vs. truths

From Lawrence Seldon in Edith Wharton’s novel The House of Mirth:

“Why do we call all our generous ideas illusions, and the mean ones truths?”

Why indeed…

What might happen if we reversed the labels?