Posts tagged ‘trust’

October 15, 2015

Your future is not about people who walk away

Thought of the moment, from source unknown:

When people walk away, let them.
Your future is not about people who walk away.
It’s about the people who stay in it for the ride.

To all those people who are in it for my ride, thank you.

September 18, 2014

Destination (un)known

Thought for the day, courtesy of explorer Christopher Columbus:

You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.

Sometimes you just gotta jump on the boat and go.

April 30, 2014

You don’t have time to sit and doubt . . .

Inspiration for the last day of April:

The heart knows the truth.
Trust it, for life is short.

(From the film Miss Pettigrew Lives for a Day)

March 14, 2014

Lessons from a Russian doctor: Life, too, is only an instant

The following quote is from the poem “Wedding” at the end of Boris Pasternak’s novel Doctor Zhivago:

For life, too, is only an instant,
Only the dissolving of ourselves
In the selves of all others
As if bestowing a gift.

I often comment on the importance of maintaining your sense of individuality in life — of standing up for what you believe in, of honouring and acting on your life dreams and gut instincts above all else. This quote reminds us that it is also important to open ourselves to the people around us, to trust the process of social interaction, to knock down any walls built on fear and embrace the friendships, relationships, attachments waiting on the other side.

And it reminds us that life is indeed short. We are each of us just a moment in time, just a small part of the history of humanity and of the earth. Soon, that moment — your moment — will be gone. So live it while it’s here, and live it fully, as if you were a gift to the world. Because you are a gift to the world.

October 16, 2013

Instructions for life #3: Do it now

Don’t wait too long to do the things that feel right to you, in the moment when you really feel them pull you. If you do, you might miss the opportunity to grab those things altogether.

Life doesn’t often offer second chances or do-overs. It doesn’t usually insert same amazing people or the same potential experiences into your path more than once. So when you do meet those amazing people or encounter those potential experiences — the ones that really call to you and move you at a deep level — trust yourself enough to follow your heart into action in that moment. Don’t worry about what other people might think, and don’t be put off by “the unknown.” Be brave, and be confident, and honour the energy building inside you while it is still building, because that energy is there for a reason, and that reason wants to be heard.

Do it now, before the next opportunity that really speaks to you stops calling your name for good.

October 7, 2013

Observed on the street: Pinboard enlightenment

I read this message today on an event poster tacked onto a community bulletin board in my favourite local bookstore:

“Trust your intuition!” says Philip Ponchet, president of the Inner Peace Movement of Canada. Ponchet believes our answers in life come from our intuition, something many of us second-guess and tend not to trust. “We think too much. We’ve been taught to be analytical, but when it comes to what we really need for ourselves, our intellect isn’t going to help us. It has to come from inside, from the heart,” says Ponchet.

This is a message I was grateful to come across today. Thank you, random pinboard advertising!

September 21, 2013

Quote of the day: Just let it all happen . . .

Miracles come in moments. Be ready and willing.
(Wayne Dyer)

October 25, 2012

Trust your instinct – one woman’s story

In the book Women of the West Coast:  Then and Now, (a collection of stories about women who have shaped, and been shaped by, the west coast of Vancouver Island), there is a story that speaks strongly to me. It is the story of a woman named Maureen, and how she came to operate the popular Common Loaf Bake Shop in the village of Tofino, B.C.  It is a story of serendipity and unwavering belief in the self and the soul’s wisdom.  Allow me to paraphrase the story, as told by author Marnie Anderson, for you:

Maureen was a caseworker in inner-city Toronto when she decided to take a year off to travel and explore new directions in her life.  She bought a van and made plans to drive west across Canada, then down to South America. Shortly before leaving, Maureen happened upon an article describing Pacific Rim National Park on the west coast of Vancouver Island.  She decided to go there.

“It was love at first sight,” writes Anderson of Maureen’s reaction to Tofino, B.C.  The ocean inlet surrounded by mountains was “entirely soul satisfying.”  Maureen stayed in Tofino for several days — long enough to learn that the village lacked a bakery — before continuing her travels.  She spent a year in South America, but Tofino stayed with her.

“On a late summer day in a small village in Ecuador,” writes Anderson, “everything began to come together in Maureen’s mind.  After months of travel and exploration, not the least of which were her own boundaries, she suddenly knew what she wanted to do with her life.”

Open a bakery in Tofino.

Maureen had no previous baking experience and no guarantees of success.  Her family and friends thought her crazy.  But she didn’t let these things sway her.  She didn’t want to return to her job as a city caseworker.  She had come to believe that there was something else she was meant to do in her life, and she trusted her instincts enough to act on that feeling.

Over the next several years, Maureen doggedly carved out her own success.  She moved to Tofino, found a job cooking for a construction crew, and on her first day looked up the “recipe” for grilled cheese sandwiches.  Months later she rented a room in a local arts centre and built a tiny bakery, renovating the space herself on a learn-as-you-go basis.  Her first loaves of rye bread were, Anderson writes, “hard, brown little bricks, which she rather hesitantly offered for sale.”  One friend dutifully bought a loaf every few days, later reasoning that “if he kept buying her products she would eventually learn to bake.”

Eventually, she did.  Maureen patiently persevered, and by the early 1990s her bakery — relocated to a much larger space — offered an array of breads, cookies, loaves and muffins coveted by residents and tourists alike.  A staff of 13 manned the counter, and the daily runs of cheese buns and cinnamon buns were often sold out by noon in the tourist season.

Maureen’s bake shop also became a meeting place for the “doers, thinkers and creative people” of the area, as well as an unofficial home base for the Friends of Clayoquot Sound, an environmental group that successfully protested logging operations on Meares Island and other coastal areas.

Maureen’s story, as told by Anderson, speaks of a woman with the strength of mind to trust (and act on) her own instincts — even if they initially appeared to lead her in bizarre or unexpected directions.  Unlike many people in today’s fast-paced world, Maureen gave herself permission to take unstructured time off, during which she allowed her ideas and experiences to percolate at their own pace — a process that eventually led her to her life’s calling.  Serendipity guided Maureen to Vancouver Island in the first place, but it was her own steadfast belief in both herself and the validity of her goals and dreams that kept her there.

This inspiring woman was ultimately able to find success according to her own definitions (the only definitions that really matter in the long run).  Would that we could all be so fortunate in our own lives.

July 4, 2012

Secrets vs. storytelling

I recently read the novel The Mermaid Chair by Sue Monk Kidd, and this quote jumped out at me:

They say you can bear anything if you can tell a story about it.

The concept here is that even the worst experience you’ve had — the deepest, darkest secret you hold — loses its weight if you are able to speak openly about it.

Kelly Winters also writes about this idea in her book Walking Home.  From her perspective:

Secrets carry power, but too often, if you keep a big part of your life secret, it gives people power over you.  The power of fear, the fear that they’ll take your secret away and expose you.  It’s better to expose yourself, and do it early on.

I think we’ve all had moments like these in our lives:  something “big and bad” has happened to us, but we are afraid to speak out about it — to share our story — for fear of being judged, or appearing “weak,” or alienating people, or whatever.  But the act of carrying that secret around on our own weighs us down, and the longer we do it, the larger our associated fears become.  Eventually, a part of us crumbles under the burden of it all.

Speaking out under such circumstances might seem impossible, absurd, like emotional suicide.  But do it, and everything changes.  All that accumulated pressure evaporates into the air.  Our secret, we find, wasn’t so big or bad after all.  We are still standing, people haven’t deserted us, and — most interesting — some folks have had similar experiences to our own, and they share those experiences with us, and we learn that we are not alone in our fear or shame or guilt or sadness or what have you.  We are left lighter, fresher, cleaner and more connected to the people around us, our anxieties unfounded.

To quote author and philosopher Howard Thurman:

You must go through some things crying all the way if you’re ever going to live with them without crying.

A catharsis worth risking.

Be well.