Posts tagged ‘support’

March 18, 2016

Hold “home” with longer arms

So many people feel alone and isolated in today’s Western society, where cavernous, echoing homes; drive-through meals; and tiny, emoticon-filled cell phone screens dominate.

But it doesn’t have to be this way. Tiny house builder Dee Williams suggests that if we take the chance to reach out to the people and places around us — to interact in person, face-to-face, in ways that let us look into each others’ eyes, feel the sun on our skin, and exchange a smile, touch or hug — we might all feel a stronger sense of belonging in this world. Williams writes in her memoir The Big Tiny:

If more people understood how nice it is to have a sense of home that extends past our locked doors, past our neighbours’ padlocks, to the local food co-op and library, the sidewalks busted up by old trees — if we all hold home with longer arms — we’d live in a very different place. . . .

We wouldn’t feel so alone, no matter the size of our houses, no matter whether we had good health or [not]. We would begin to see the each moment presents an opportunity to relax, to notice that the wind has shifted and a storm is coming, or that our friend’s toddler has decided to wear dinner instead of eating it. We would see that each minute counts for something timeless and, if we want, we can all find our way inside these big, tiny moments.

July 21, 2014

Keep rubbing the coin that is your heart . . .

Thought of the moment, courtesy of author and poet Maya Angelou in her book Letter to My Daughter:

The human heart is so delicate and sensitive that it always needs some tangible encouragement to prevent it from faltering in its labour. The human heart is so robust, so tough, that once encouraged it beats its rhythm with a loud unswerving insistency.

Two sides of the human heart — fragility and fortitude. The sides oppose one another, yet both require the same crucial ingredient — encouragement — in order to persist, to flourish.

Surround yourself with people, places and environments that encourage and support your heart. Do this always. And above all else, make sure that you yourself are the biggest, loudest, most loyal and enduring source of encouragement in your own life.

April 2, 2014

The power of touch runs deep

Following on the theme of yesterday’s post — my April challenge to reach out and touch someone (new) — here are a few quotes that highlight the power of touch in our lives:

‘Tis the human touch in the world that counts — the touch of your hand and mine — which means far more to the sinking heart than shelter or bread or wine. For shelter is gone when the night is o’er, and bread lasts only a day. But the touch of the hand and the sound of the voice live on in the soul always.
(Spencer M. Free)

Yes I am a strong person, but every now and then I also need someone to take my hand and say everything will be OK.
(Anonymous)

Everybody needs a hug. It changes your metabolism
(Leo Buscaglia)

The things that matter most in our lives are not fantastic or grand. They are the moments when we touch each other.
(Jack Kornfield)

December 25, 2013

Happy Holidays

The best gift you can give is

the gift of your time;

the gift of an ear to listen or a shoulder to lean on;

the gift of an open heart.

Merry Christmas.

October 1, 2013

October challenge: Reach out (In memory of a lost friend)

This month’s challenge is in memory of my friend Anita, who took her own life at the end of August.

This October, I challenge you to reach out to someone you know who may be going though a difficult time. Even if that person seems fine on the outside, reach out anyway; they may be hurting more than you know inside. Even if that person doesn’t ask for help, reach out anyway; they may not know how to ask for support, or they may not think themselves worthy of it. Reach out even if they don’t want you to do so. Reach out even if you think it silly or unnecessary or far too intrusive. Make that phone call, make that visit, give that hug, speak that kind word of support or encouragement. Share your own dark moments, if you are comfortable doing so, to help that person see that they are not alone in what they are experiencing, and that there is hope for the future. Reach out in any way you can, however small. In the end, your single act of caring may be the one thing that pulls that person back from the brink of despair, back onto the road of life.

Peace be with you, Anita. The world is less bright without you in it.

May 18, 2013

You can make a difference

Today’s food for thought, courtesy of Henry Wadsworth Longfellow:

Give what you have.  To someone, it may be better than you dare to think.

Happy long weekend!