Posts tagged ‘self-confidence’

March 1, 2016

Speak up (a woman’s creed)

Thought of the moment, courtesy of Eleanor Roosevelt:

She wasn’t dressed up
She wasn’t stuck up
And she wasn’t afraid to speak up.

Your voice is strong and your words hold value.

Honour your voice; speak your words.

June 12, 2015

Fire lives within you

Great lyric from the song “Fight Song” by Rachel Platten:

I might only have one match,
But I can make an explosion.

Get out there and burn.

November 13, 2014

Let the wrong/right path be yours alone

Thought of the day:

To go wrong in one’s own way is better than to go right in someone else’s.
~ Fyodor Dostoyevsky

Amen to that. Above all else, be yourself.

September 16, 2014

Conceive your future, then achieve it

Thought for the day, courtesy of American author Napoleon Hill:

Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.

No further explanation needed!

November 12, 2013

You have your own unique niche to fill – be proud of it!

Today, a great quote from Oscar Wilde:

Be yourself; everyone else is taken.

You are unique and beautiful just as you are. Let those qualities shine forth into the world. No one else gives off light quite like you do!

October 22, 2013

Love your quirks; they’re beautiful

Just be yourself. Let people see the

real,

imperfect,

flawed,

quirky,

weird,

beautiful and magical

person that you are.

              (Mandy Hale)

August 23, 2013

Speak your heart to know your heart (and to grow your heart)

I like this quote from author and philosopher Albert Camus:

To know oneself, one should assert oneself.

As humans, we are sometimes afraid to share our true feelings or speak our true needs. We fear being rejected, criticized, disappointed, embarrassed or misunderstood. We’re scared to appear needy, hurtful, selfish, smug or vulnerable. We don’t want to cause others to feel anger, sadness, love, “obligation” or some other emotion that frightens us. The list goes on — but notice how all of these fears relate to how other people perceive or react to us, rather than how we perceive or react to ourselves? What about our own needs for personal growth and learning?

If you don’t assert yourself — if you don’t voice your own thoughts and feelings and needs and desires — then how can you ever know what truly drives you? How can you ever sort through the multitude of possible reactions, emotions and perspectives available to you, and find the ones that most accurately and comfortably express the person you are inside? And how can you communicate with other people in ways that nurture relationships built on understanding, respect and trust?

It takes practice to hone any new skill, and assertiveness is just that: a skill. If being assertive is new to you, then it’s not realistic to expect instant success. You wouldn’t expect to paint a masterpiece the first time you picked up a paint brush, would you? What we need to understand and accept is that it is OK to make mistakes in communicating our needs to others, because mistakes are how we learn. It is OK to be too pushy one day, and too flimsy the next. It is OK to cause another person to get mad. It is OK to appear “selfish,” or to disappoint someone we care about. It is OK to ask for love or help or a hug. People are resilient beings; they will get over whatever you throw at them — and if they don’t, they are probably not a good match for you in the long run.

The more we assert ourselves, the easier and more comfortable it will become. The better able we will be to discuss issues openly and honestly, and to achieve satisfying compromises. And the stronger, more authentic and more mature our relationships will become — both with ourselves and with the people around us.

As writer Hugh Prather says,

Some people will like me, and some won’t. So I might as well be myself, and then at least I’ll know that the people who like me, like me.

February 1, 2013

February challenge: Make an “I rock!” list!

This month, I challenge you to:

  1. Find a nice piece of paper.
  2. At the top, write the phrase “I rock because . . .”.
  3. Underneath, write at least five reasons why you think you’re totally awesome.  That’s right!  Five things you love about yourself — five qualities or characteristics you possess that, in your eyes, totally rock.

Call this your “I rock!” list.  Hang it in a place where you can see it every day for the rest of the month (on your fridge, on your bathroom mirror, on the steering wheel of your car, etc.).  Then, every day this month, look at your list, read it, and respect what it has to say — i.e., that you rock!

So many of us find it hard to acknowledge and celebrate the good in ourselves.  We say “I can’t” or “I’m not good at” more often than we say “I can” or “I’m awesome at”.  We find it easier to put ourselves down than to prop ourselves up, to dodge compliments than to welcome them, to devalue our own worth than to stand proud in who we are — before others and before ourselves.

This month, let’s break these patterns.  Make your “I rock!” list and display it proudly.  Because you do rock.  There are so many fabulous qualities you hold, so many things you do well, so much good inside you.  You are an amazing person.  And it’s time to acknowledge and celebrate that fact.