Posts tagged ‘present’

November 20, 2015

Exit anger, enter love

Thought of the moment, courtesy of author Barbara De Angelis:

The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present.

I do think that some of the events in my past have led me to direct anger towards people or situations that I see as the “cause” of something bad or undesirable in my life. Often it’s a subconscious reaction, one that I’m not aware of (or aware of the depth of) until years later. I know that these events and people don’t actually “cause” my negative reaction; how I choose to react to any situation is completely up to me — but tell that to my heart in the moment!!

The anger is there, I know it’s there, and I’m trying to work my way through it, to move towards a place of acceptance, forgiveness, freedom. And, yes, the ability to love and truly live in the present once again.

Awareness, I’ve always said, is the first step towards change.

Peace.

March 14, 2014

Lessons from a Russian doctor: Life, too, is only an instant

The following quote is from the poem “Wedding” at the end of Boris Pasternak’s novel Doctor Zhivago:

For life, too, is only an instant,
Only the dissolving of ourselves
In the selves of all others
As if bestowing a gift.

I often comment on the importance of maintaining your sense of individuality in life — of standing up for what you believe in, of honouring and acting on your life dreams and gut instincts above all else. This quote reminds us that it is also important to open ourselves to the people around us, to trust the process of social interaction, to knock down any walls built on fear and embrace the friendships, relationships, attachments waiting on the other side.

And it reminds us that life is indeed short. We are each of us just a moment in time, just a small part of the history of humanity and of the earth. Soon, that moment — your moment — will be gone. So live it while it’s here, and live it fully, as if you were a gift to the world. Because you are a gift to the world.

March 10, 2014

Live. Now. (No plans required!)

A great quote from the novel Doctor Zhivago by Boris Pasternak:

Man is born to live, not to prepare for life.

Stop over-planning. Stop over-thinking. Stop over-analyzing.

Start simply living, in the very moment you are in right now.

December 18, 2013

You are (always) unwritten

Great lyrics from Natasha Bedingfield’s song “Unwritten” — reminding us that, at any time in our lives, we have the option to turn over a new leaf, turn to a blank page, and start afresh . . . and to embrace that experience as it unfolds before us.

I am unwritten
Can’t read my mind
I’m undefined
I’m just beginning
The pen’s in my hand
Ending unplanned

Staring at the blank page before you
Open up the dirty window
Let the sun illuminate the words that you could not find
Reaching for something in the distance
So close you can almost taste it
Release your inhibitions

Feel the rain on your skin
No one else can feel it for you
Only you can let it in
No one else
No one else can speak the words on your lips
Drench yourself in words unspoken
Live your life with arms wide open
Today is where you book begins
The rest is still unwritten

October 4, 2013

When the moment calls you, listen

Ever wonder what it means to live in the present? Here’s a great example from Stephen Hume’s essay “A Walk with the Rainy Sisters,” published in his anthology of the same name:

The wind rose suddenly the other night, nudging me awake. It rustled through the forest canopy of maple and willow outside my window and snuffled around the eaves like some enormous, restless animal.

I slipped out of bed and into a pair of jeans, shrugged into my old Cowichan sweater with the snowflake pattern, stepped outside the world we parcel out in hours, minutes and seconds and went for a walk in the dishevelled vastness of time embedded in every starry night at the edge of the continent.

The wind had swept the sky clear. . . . Above the road, a river of stars, the Milky Way, the embracing arms of the galaxy . . . . The whole vista of the winter heavens spread around me.

Awoken on a windy night that seemed to whisper his name, Hume gave in to the mystery of that call. He didn’t roll over and go back to sleep. Instead, he grasped the moment and went outside for a walk, alone, in the middle of a dark, chilly night. As a result, he was dazzled by a clear, glittering sky and filled with such a strong sense of peaceful connectedness that the memory of it continues to move him to this day.

Being present doesn’t have to involve big moments. All it requires is recognizing — and acting on — the urges that pull you at the very moment they pull. They’re there for a reason, those urges. Listen, and your life will be rich.

October 3, 2013

I choose . . .

I can either spend my time worrying about what might happen in the future, or I can choose to enjoy the gifts that are in my life right now, in this very moment.

The choice is mine — and yours.  Every day.

March 24, 2013

Love the shadow to love the light

A bit of wisdom from my bag of Yogi Tea:

Love what is ahead by loving what has come before.

To me, this quote suggests that a key to living with contentment — both now and in the future — is the ability to acknowledge and accept all that has happened to you in the past — both the good moments and the bad ones.  “Love what has come before,” even if what has come before is nasty or painful or seems impossible to love.

If your past is anything like mine, it’s no rose garden.  Granted, there have been wonderful moments — plenty of them — but I’ve also experienced difficult and tumultuous times, stormy times filled with hurt and loss, times that have tripped me up, beaten me down and left a few scars to prove it.

Yet if I can learn to love those dark moments as much as I do the light — if I can make peace with them instead of trying to erase them from memory; if I can resolve past hurts and injustices inside myself and then let them go; if I can acknowledge and accept every bit of my past as a vital and worthy part of the person I am now — then I can enter my future with a free and open heart.  I can walk forward unburdened, alive to what is happening around me.  And I can welcome what will come with grace and compassion.

I’m willing to give it a try.  You?