Posts tagged ‘love’

February 3, 2017

Love is what you find at the bottom of a toy trunk

This completely quirky but totally true description of love is courtesy of Montreal author Heather O’Neill in her novel The Girl Who Was Saturday Night. (Read Heather O’Neill if you can; her work is brilliantly engaging.)

Love is like this small room where a child brings you to show you all their treasures. First the child shows you all the new toys that are bright and shiny and top of the line. But then she shows you all the stuff that has ended up at the bottom of the trunk. There are dolls with eyes that wobble, hair that is falling out of their heads, and dirt behind the ears. Their fingertips have been chewed off by dogs and they have been drawn on with ballpoint pen. It has been so long since they have been held or anyone has told them that they are lovely. They lie at the bottom of the toy chest, hidden and ashamed. You are either going to be disgusted by them, or you are going to be so filled with love for them that your heart almost breaks.

At some point, any long-term relationship will expose you to the bad, the sad and the vulnerable in your partner, alongside the good, the happy and the strong. That is the point when you find out if your love is real.

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January 3, 2017

Balm for a broken heart

These quotes are for my friend A.J. and everyone else who’s been there, felt that:

Love is spiritual training for a broken heart. Your heart will break if you love someone.
~ Polly Young-Eisendrath in The Present Heart

But then…

To lose balance sometimes for love is part of living a balanced life.
~ Elizabeth Gilbert in Eat, Pray, Love

And …

I tell you this to break your heart, by which I mean only that it break open and never close again to the rest of the world.
~ Mary Oliver

A broken heart is a gift. It means you are human; it means you are capable of opening yourself to someone else, to letting them in, to loving them — then, now and in the future. Your heart will heal and you will love again — better and stronger next time for what you have learned this time. ♥

May 1, 2016

Spring cleaning for the soul

Thought of the day, courtesy of 19th-century English novelist and poet Dinah M. Craik:

Keep what is worth keeping and with the breath of kindness blow the rest away.

You can create so much more energy and space in your life — to both give and receive — if you gently let go of those pieces that no longer serve you, be they activities, commitments, relationships, perspectives or beliefs.

Life is meant to ebb and flow, to empty and fill, not to grasp and cling, dig in and hold on.

Fill your lungs full. Then let go, with love. ❤

January 1, 2016

A new year’s wish: make mistakes

Happy New Year! Let’s set a path for the new year with this perfect quote from British author Neil Gaiman:

I hope that this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re doing something.

So . . . make new mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes. Make mistakes nobody’s ever made before. Don’t freeze, don’t stop, don’t worry that it isn’t good enough, or it isn’t perfect, whatever it is: art, or love, or work or family life.

Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, do it.

Make your mistakes, next year and forever.

Best wishes for 2016. ❤

 

December 31, 2015

A post to end 2015: click

I came upon this wonderful quote today, and it made me think of all the people — new acquaintances and old friends — who have truly touched my life through their presence, spirit, conversation, laughter, support, ideas, shoulders or ears (to lean on or listen), unconditional love or what have you:

Sometimes you meet someone, and it’s so clear that the two of you, on some level, belong together. As lovers, or as friends, or as family, or as something entirely different. You just work, whether you understand one another, or you’re in love, or you’re partners in crime. You meet these people throughout your life, out of nowhere, under the strangest circumstances, and they help you feel alive. (Source unknown)

To all of you who truly “click” with me and make me feel alive, thank you. I am blessed to have you in my life and to call you my friends.

November 20, 2015

Exit anger, enter love

Thought of the moment, courtesy of author Barbara De Angelis:

The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present.

I do think that some of the events in my past have led me to direct anger towards people or situations that I see as the “cause” of something bad or undesirable in my life. Often it’s a subconscious reaction, one that I’m not aware of (or aware of the depth of) until years later. I know that these events and people don’t actually “cause” my negative reaction; how I choose to react to any situation is completely up to me — but tell that to my heart in the moment!!

The anger is there, I know it’s there, and I’m trying to work my way through it, to move towards a place of acceptance, forgiveness, freedom. And, yes, the ability to love and truly live in the present once again.

Awareness, I’ve always said, is the first step towards change.

Peace.

October 22, 2015

Real hurts, but it’s where the love is

A case for taking risks, putting yourself out there, and opening your heart wide, courtesy of Margery Williams in the children’s novel The Velveteen Rabbit:

“Real isn’t how you are made,” said the Skin Horse. “It’s a thing that happens to you . . . ”
“Does it hurt?” asked the Rabbit.
“Sometimes,” said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. “When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.”
“Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,” he asked, “or bit by bit?”
“It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”

Life is meant to be lived, experienced, dived into and shared in full. A worn, scarred exterior means a rich, shining interior. The people who matter most in your life will see this; they will know it, understand it, without question. This is love.

❤

May 7, 2015

A note about what’s most important

A great quote from Vickie M. Worsham:

Remember what is most important:

It’s not having everything go right;
it’s facing whatever goes wrong.
It’s not being without fear;
it’s having the determination to go on in spite of it.
It’s not where you stand,
but the direction you’re going in.

Remember to live this one day and not add tomorrow’s troubles to today’s load.
Remember that every day ends and brings a new tomorrow full of exciting new things.
Love what you do,
do the best you can,
and always remember how much you are loved.

April 30, 2015

Ode to my bicycle

This anonymous quote the pretty much sums up my feelings towards my lovely, fabulous bike(s)!

When I ride my bike I feel free and happy and strong,
liberated from the usual nonsense of day-to-day life,
solid, dependable, silent.
My bike is my horse, my fighter jet, my island, my friend.
Together we shall conquer that hill and thereafter the world.

 

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March 15, 2015

You aren’t perfect, but you can live fully anyway

Thoughts of the moment:

…courtesy of Donna Smallin in her book Unclutter Your Mind:

Accept that you aren’t perfect.
People will still love you even when you make mistakes.
They may even love you more for it.

Accept that others have shortcomings, too.
Forgiving others’ mistakes heals both parties and frees us to learn from the past and move forward.

…and courtesy of Oprah Winfrey:

I know for sure: Your journey begins with a choice to get up, step out, and live fully.

Go. Do. Be. Live. ❤