Posts tagged ‘instinct’

March 17, 2017

Let go of the need to “control” your life

In today’s performance-driven, dog-eat-dog world, we all need a reminder to let go, trust our intuition and go with the flow of where our instincts lead us (even if our minds don’t always agree with that direction). Rower Sara Hall has this to say on the topic in her memoir Drawn to the Rhythm:

The necessity for letting go . . . is hard to grasp and harder to execute because we humans, so gloriously smart, are so afraid to trust our own instincts. We have to control everything — our bodies, our lives, our relationships, our physical environment — and we often try to do this by force, by exercising the strength of our muscles and ego to bend the world to our command. We think if we get a grip on whatever challenges us — a good, hard, take-no-prisoners grip — we’re golden. But we’re not. Sometimes . . . the best solution is . . . to . . . [l]et go. . . .

Our endless struggle with ego and control, both within ourselves and in reaction to others, is a diversion that serves us ill. . . .[W]e squander our energy and our precious time on earth, and all of us must find the source of courage that allows us to loosen our hold and follow the calling of a greater imperative. Trust me.

October 25, 2014

Let go of “right” or “wrong” and go with your gut

Artist and author Toni Carmine Salerno writes:

Ultimately there are no right or wrong decisions, only different experiences.

These words take some pressure off those of us who tend to worry about whether we’re making the “right” choice about how to proceed in whatever life circumstances we’re facing.

Ultimately, every choice you make is the right one, because every experience you encounter holds value. The key, I think, is to let your intuition be your guide: if your intuition (a.k.a. gut instinct, subconscious mind, higher self, etc.) keeps poking you to do a certain thing or move in a certain direction, listen! Do that thing your intuition urges, even if the idea seems crazy or risky to your rational mind and/or the people around you.

The heart holds much truth. In the last few years, I have discovered that listening to my heart’s urgings (no matter how ridiculous or frightening they may at first seem) actually brings resolution to some of the fractious or troublesome pieces of my life. Acting on these urges isn’t always easy, and the outcome may not always be what I’d hoped for, but the process enables me to either embrace something new or let go of something old (often something that’s been dogging me for a long time). I loose my mind of the anxiety associated with “should I / shouldn’t I / what if?” and I’m able to move forward lighter, freer, contented — and proud of myself for taking control of my life. A very empowering and totally worthwhile experience. 🙂