Posts tagged ‘confidence’

October 26, 2014

Something to be proud of . . .

Thought for the day, courtesy of my Yogi Tea bag:

Be proud of who you are.

Enough said.

February 10, 2014

Don’t be afraid to be a little messy

Quote for the week, courtesy of Eleanor Roosevelt:

You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.

I did something like this the other day. I stopped, turned the car around, and went back to do a thing that made me feel exposed and vulnerable — a thing that scared me but was also the very thing I most wanted to do in that moment. The result? A little awkwardness, a little uncertainly, and a positive outcome.

This experience made me realize that life’s events don’t always have to unfold gracefully or fluently or in any sort of well-ordered, elegant fashion. They just have to unfold, period. The how of it doesn’t really matter in the long run.

Fear tends to stop us from creating space for our lives to unfold in the first place. That’s a sad state of affairs, when you think about it.

So this week, do a thing which you think you cannot do. Do it messily; do it clumsily; do it red-faced and stuttering — but do it anyway. At the end of the day, you’ll find that the rewards far outweigh the risks.

October 22, 2013

Love your quirks; they’re beautiful

Just be yourself. Let people see the

real,

imperfect,

flawed,

quirky,

weird,

beautiful and magical

person that you are.

              (Mandy Hale)

October 16, 2013

Instructions for life #3: Do it now

Don’t wait too long to do the things that feel right to you, in the moment when you really feel them pull you. If you do, you might miss the opportunity to grab those things altogether.

Life doesn’t often offer second chances or do-overs. It doesn’t usually insert same amazing people or the same potential experiences into your path more than once. So when you do meet those amazing people or encounter those potential experiences — the ones that really call to you and move you at a deep level — trust yourself enough to follow your heart into action in that moment. Don’t worry about what other people might think, and don’t be put off by “the unknown.” Be brave, and be confident, and honour the energy building inside you while it is still building, because that energy is there for a reason, and that reason wants to be heard.

Do it now, before the next opportunity that really speaks to you stops calling your name for good.

September 4, 2013

Observed on the street: A little healthy self-love

Observed on the street:

A pre-teen girl walking down the street wearing a t-shirt with the following affirmation written across the front in big, bold characters:

i ❤ being me.

Awesome.

Would that we all wore t-shirts like this.

August 9, 2013

What would happen today?

What would happen today if I . . .

–  did the thing that scares me,
–  said what I really think,
–  told someone I love them,
–  stood up for what I believe in,
–  honoured my true feelings,
–  acted from my heart?

What, indeed.

August 1, 2013

Challenge of the month: Speak your mind (your real mind)!

This month, when someone asks you for your opinion or ideas on something, I challenge you to speak your mind honestly, openly, confidently and compassionately.

So many of us cover up our true thoughts or impressions for fear of offending another person, or appearing too (un)intelligent, or because we mistakenly believe that our ideas or opinions are somehow lesser than those of others.

If you fit any of these patterns, this month, break them (at least once)! You may find that people truly value what you have to say — whether it is a compliment, a criticism, or just a point of view that’s different from all the rest. You may find that people appreciate your candour, that they take a genuine interest in your unique perspectives, and that they can handle what might seem (to you) like “criticism” with more ease than you thought possible. And you might feel better inside yourself for having spoken your own truth — no matter how big or small the issue at hand.

This August, speak out! Your opinions deserve it.

January 28, 2013

Show your true colours

Another poem from children’s author Shel Silverstein:

Colours

My skin is kind of sort of brownish
Pinkish yellowish white.
My eyes are greyish blueish green,
But I’m told they look orange in the night.
My hair is reddish blondish brown,
But it’s silver when it’s wet.
And all the colours I am inside
Have not been invented yet.

Inside of you (yes, you!) is a brilliant explosion of colour, a vivid, breathtaking swirl of tints and tones that is unique to only you. These colours are yours, and yours alone.  Honour these colours and the inner canvas they decorate. Free them to the world through the activities you pursue and the causes you follow. Name them in your own way, by giving them the space and recognition they deserve — both inside your self and in the world around you. Paint your world your way, according to your inner palette. And never be afraid to splash another colour onto the work of art that is your life.

Image of paint splatter

December 25, 2012

All aboard! Your train awaits.

Today’s quote comes from the 2004 film The Polar Express and hints at the importance of taking that leap to start your own journey before the moment passes you by.  Says the conductor of the film’s magical train:

The thing about trains [is] it doesn’t matter where they’re going.  What matters is deciding to get on.

We can never predict where the journey will take us.  We must always take uncertainty along for the ride, accept the unknown as our constant travel companion.  So be it.  We can still take that first step and choose to embark on the journey in the first place.  Yes, we can.

Merry Christmas.  Be well.

Bells

November 11, 2012

Become the person inside you

I am reading a life/travel memoir about a woman who, 48 years old and recently divorced, unbinds herself from her material possessions and takes off to travel the world — indefinitely.  Her book, Tales of a Female Nomad:  Living at Large in the World, tells the story of a woman reborn.  Disillusioned with her previous way of living and open, for the first time, to the dreams and desires within her, Rita Golden Gelman shuns the conventionality of a “home base” and instead spends months or years living in different locations around the globe, plugging herself into local communities and absorbing the cultures that surround her.

But Gelman’s new way of life is unconventional, and three years into her nomadic existence, her American friends continue to ask her when she’ll finally end her wandering ways and return to the “real world.”  Her response is confident and wonderful:

No matter how often I ask myself if I’m running away from something, I always get the same answer. No, I’m not running away.  On the contrary, I’ve discovered a new way to live.

My life is endlessly fascinating, filled with learning, adventure, interesting people, new and enlightening experiences.  I laugh, sing and dance more than I ever have.  I am becoming the person inside me.

Becoming the person inside you.  Isn’t that what life is all about, ultimately?  And does it really matter which path — direct or circuitous, conventional or unconventional — you take to get there?  As long as you are walking a path that makes your eyes shine and your heart beat with anticipation, keep going.  Follow that path — your path — the one that takes you to the person inside you.

You don’t have to travel the world as Gelman did to live a life that excites you.  We’re all different people with different dreams.  But one day you may have to make a decision or choose a direction that takes you outside the box of what others expect.  Do this with confidence and conviction, as Gelman did.  It’s your path, after all.  Your path deserves to be walked.