Posts tagged ‘authenticity’

December 11, 2013

You have to be lost to be found

The following passage comes from Rachel Friedman’s travel memoir The Good Girl’s Guide to Getting Lost. Friedman wrote her words in the context of travel, but I think they apply to other areas of life, too:

What happens when we lose the things that anchor us? What if, instead of grasping at something to hold on to, we pull up our roots and walk away? Instead of trying to find the way back, we walk deeper and deeper into the woods, willing ourselves to get lost. In this place where nothing is recognizable, not the people or the language or the food, we are truly on our own. Eventually, we find ourselves unencumbered by the past or the future. Here is a fleeting glimpse of our truest self, our self in the present moment. After that, maybe we can finally go home — or maybe not.

Sometimes life requires us to get lost before we are truly found. Sometimes the “losing of our path” happens unexpectedly, without our input or intent, while other times we are the ones who purposely throw away the map and stride off into the unknown. Whatever the case, such instances provide us with the unique opportunity to live outside our “normal routines” for a time. In those strange places of initial discomfort, we often encounter aspects of ourselves that don’t typically show their faces in our day-to-day lives. Sometimes those aspects empower us, sometimes they unsettle us, and sometimes they just confuse us. But unearthing them is important, as each one of them gives us a more complete picture of who we truly are — and a better position from which to determine the kind of life we really want to lead.

So, every once in a while, give yourself permission to get lost. You never know just what you might find . . . .

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September 19, 2013

A place where everything else falls away . . .

I can associate with these words from Claire Fontaine, co-author of the book Have Mother, Will Travel:

Silence and solitude are as necessary to me as air. It’s where anything false about me falls away and I’m only and ever my most essential self, as true and powerful as we all are at our core.

Beautiful. In today’s ever-moving, ever-talking society, it can sometimes be difficult to find that silence and solitude, that air for the soul. But it is there, if you look for it. It is in the peace and serenity of a solitary walk in nature, the sun warming your skin and magnifying the sights and smells of the life around you. It is in a quiet evening at home, candles lit, a carefully prepared dinner for one on the table before you. It is in your breath, gentle and nourishing, as it glides through your body when you wake up in the morning, when you go to bed at night, and at all points in between. It is there, if you look for it, and if you make space for it. It is there, always.