Archive for December, 2014

December 31, 2014

A wish for a well-lit new year

As the new year approaches, many of us will take stock of where we’ve been and where we’re going. This is a time to allow old, outdated parts of ourselves ebb away, and to create space for new parts to gather strength and issue forth.

I like the description of this process written by Laura Resau in her story “Bees Born of Tears” (published in the anthology Mexico, A Love Story, edited by Camille Cusumano):

I imagine each of us with our own cave of candles, parts of ourselves burning down to wax ponds, dying, other parts of us just beginning, the candles freshly lit.

Which freshly lit flames will illuminate your journey this coming year? And which barely flickering fires will you honour as they burn out?

Each fresh or fading flame is cause for celebration, linked as it is to the larger cycle of life, death and rebirth within both ourselves and the world around us.

This new year, honour all the candles in your life — the new and the old, the strong and the weak, those lit by your hand and those lit by circumstance, those long burned out and those still to come.

Best wishes for a bright 2015.

December 23, 2014

Thoughts on nature from a wilderness dweller

I’m reading an excellent series of books by Chris Czajkowski, a British woman who has for over 30 years lived off the grid, on her own, in cabins she built from scratch in the Chilcotin wilderness of Central British Columbia. Here are a few of her ideas about the natural world and our relationship to it that I think deserve consideration:

Thoughts on silence, from Diary of a Wilderness Dweller:

Most people will spend their whole lives never knowing what it is to live without human noise . . . . These people, and probably the majority in today’s world, will never know the beauty of silence. And if they were presented with it, it is likely that the first thing they would do would be to destroy it.

Thoughts on how we educate our children, from Nuk Tessli: The Life of a Wilderness Dweller:

People who question leaving the city while their kids are still in school, worried that they might “miss out on something” should think again. To teach a child that he belongs in an interdependent ecosystem that deserves respect is surely the greatest, almost the only, inheritance that he or she needs.

And thoughts on the importance of accepting and respecting all aspects of nature (not just its romantic beauty), again from Nuk Tessli:

Nature is fascinating, beautiful, and uplifting to the soul. It is exciting, exquisite and miraculous. But it is also dirty, uncomfortable, itchy and cold, full of disinterested murder and terror, unnecessary cruelty, misery and waste. To accept the wilderness you have to understand that both sides are valid, both are part of the intricate relationships that give us our water, air, all life-support systems and sanity. To deny one side of nature is to abrogate the other, and to understand the essence of these natural laws provides insight into our own behaviour as a species. We are part of nature and nature is part of us. To ignore that is to ignore reality, and I am afraid that is what most people do.

December 14, 2014

Take the first step

Thought for the day, courtesy of author Paulo Coelho:

In spite of the knowledge that there were many ways in which I could fail, I had taken the first step.

Take the first step. It is amazing how far it will get you.

December 12, 2014

Missed crossings and winding walkings

This quote from Robert Brault makes me think of missed opportunities and “what-ifs”:

It is sad when two people turn from the paths they’re travelling, and their paths go on to cross without them.

And this one gives me hope that the missed opportunities and what-ifs are just twists in some longer journey that I’m still walking:

Sometimes the shortest distance between two points is a winding path walked arm-in-arm.


December 7, 2014

Squander your love

From the memoir Every Day in Tuscany by Frances Mayes:

A large percentage of control over fate doesn’t exist, [so] how to go forward?

Cultivate interior life as though it were a garden sanctuary.
Give away what you can.
Squander your love.

Life is short. Make yours rich with meaning and purpose. ❤

December 3, 2014

Let go of the pen in your hand

Thought for the day, courtesy of writer Mary Beth Danielson:

If growing up is the process of creating ideas and dreams about what life should be, then maturity is letting go again.

Life doesn’t follow any set script. Loose your grip on the pen in your hand — the pen that’s trying to write a storyline for the days and years ahead of you. Let that pen fall to the ground. Let it stay there. Free yourself from the bounds of any set destination. Allow life to come to you as it will.

Sometimes the act of letting go is actually the act of welcoming in.

December 2, 2014

Thoughts on love

Thoughts on love, courtesy of the anthology France, a Love Story edited by Camille Cusumano:

What matters in life is that you make love with someone you care about on Sunday morning and walk out with them on Sunday afternoon.
(Diane LeBow in “The Fisher Baron’s Secret”)

I have found . . . that in marriage friendship is sometimes more important than passion.
(Ruth Reichl in Comfort Me With Apples)

(You are out there somewhere, not too far. Do you know what you mean to me still?)