Thought for the moment:
Truth is completely spontaneous. Lies have to be taught.
~ Buckminster Fuller
Think about it: how many times has someone asked you a question about your life or your opinions or your personal goals, and you find yourself checking your thoughts before you speak, trying to catch that wave of “truth” that instantly wells up inside you and hold it inside until you’ve had chance to reframe it or water it down or distill its true meaning before you open your mouth to answer? As adults, we tend to cover up our true feelings — about people, about situations, about ourselves — for many reasons. Maybe we’re afraid of hurting or getting hurt, or we want to conform, or we mistakenly think our true passions and opinions are somehow “silly” (they’re not; they never are). Whatever the case — and whether the process is conscious or unconscious — the result is the same: we end up masking our honest opinions and emotions in layers of protective, shape-muting “verbal gauze,” and we end up being untrue to both ourselves and the world around us.
What would happen if next time you were asked a question — any question: “How are you today?” “What is your opinion on X?” “Do you want to come with me?” “You seem upset; what happened?” “Where do you want to be in one/two/five/twenty years?” — you told the truth. What if you just let the words that spontaneously well up inside you bubble out into the world, for better or worse? Any pausing you do before answering would be to make sure you’re stating your truth accurately, diplomatically and sympathetically. No need to try and suck the reality out of anything. Reality is what you want.
Scary, yes, but with time and with practice, perhaps your life would become more authentic. Perhaps the things you crave would actually start coming your way. Perhaps you would grow as a person, into a space beyond any limits that you see before you today.